You just came out gay. It’s the best feeling in the world to finally be honest about yourself and show everyone who you are. You don’t have to feel so stifled any more or feel as if you’re wearing someone else’s skin. You’re gay and out, and nothing can rain on your parade.
You’re also interested in dating now. But where do you start? What do newly out gays do to kick-start their love life? Don’t fret. We got you covered on where to start, what to do and what other practical dating tips for you to try on your first date.
1 – Communication is Still Key
This may be an obvious tip but communicating openly with someone on a date is important. This goes both ways whether you’re straight or gay. Communication is still key when you’re on a date with that special someone. This way, they’ll know what you’re thinking early on, whether or not you’re open for just a fling or you’d like for this to evolve into a long lasting relationship.
The more you keep your feelings to yourself, the more you’ll send mixed signals and might even scare or confuse the person away. So be honest and open up a little. Talk and enjoy the conversation that follows.
2 – Dating Apps Work
There’s this stigma over finding dates online. Some don’t believe you can find love via the internet. Some will also tell you that it’s dangerous. But in actuality, there are a lot of online love stories that have turned out successful.
Don’t be afraid to register on a dating website or app. It’s a great way to start looking for a potential love partner if heading into bars or coffee shops isn’t your thing yet. Make sure to check whether the site is legit. Remember to be honest about your preference so that in return the website or app can help people who are searching for gay men can narrow down their choices.
3 – Be Careful
There’s nothing wrong if you’re looking into having sex. What’s important is that you practice safe sex. Use a condom and lubricant. Get tested. Ask your partner if he’s clean too. It’s not an offensive thing to ask if it concerns both of your health. In fact, it’s a way to tell someone you care about them too when you look out for both of your sexual activity.
Another thing to be careful for is that people sometimes prey on the naïve ones. Trust your instincts and stay away from men who you think are faking their preferences just to hook up with you. As mentioned above, communicating during dates are important. This will give you an idea whether or not the man you’re into is lying or staying true to their selves.
4 – Enjoy
Dates should be enjoyed. It’s no fun if you fake through the whole ordeal. With that being said, don’t hesitate to show your true feelings if a date doesn’t seem fun. You deserve a great night out or a coffee date. You deserve being with someone who is worth your time. It’s perfectly alright to end the first date completely if it isn’t interesting enough rather than let it continue on with a second one.
But also note that not all first dates go so well. It depends on you should you give the other a chance. Maybe you didn’t enjoy the first date but you’re interested enough in seeing a second and third. Give it a chance and see for yourself. In the end, you might just enjoy the third date more than the first two.But don’t go calling them up non-stop, as ShallonOnline advises or else you’ll scare them away.
5 – Be Yourself
Don’t try to hide who you are. You may be used to keeping yourself in check before you came out gay so it’s a normal reaction if you’re shy or nervous. But there’s no turning back now. You can’t erase who you are or return to who you once were. It’s time you get used to being your true self. And if anyone can’t accept who you are, that’s not your problem. It’s theirs. And it’s not something you should trouble over about.